Throwback Thursday: Is Tiger Tanking Good for Marriage?

Watching Tiger Woods' recent attempts to regain some of his previous stature on the golf course reminded me of something I wrote after his infidelity was revealed in 2009. Although I can't say I root for him now (mostly because I'm not a fan of golf), I believe his career paid the price for his marital failings, and I now take no pleasure in his inability to return to the top of the leader board.

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Bold & Pop
Husbands, Here's a Mother's Day Present Idea

This post is for the husbands/fathers out there still looking for a Mother's Day gift. Or maybe, for the ones who bought something that doesn't seem like quite enough. The beauty of this idea is that it won't cost you a dollar. It also isn't specific to Mother's Day. This would be a great present for a birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, Sweetest Day (whatever that is), or "just because."

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Bold & Pop
Married Filing Jointly

It's April, which means if you listen closely, you can hear the murmur of couples across America feverishly preparing their taxes.  Understand, "preparing" means different things in different households. For some it involves bickering about receipts, while in other homes someone is yelling about waiting until the last minute. From some homes you can't hear anything because there's just the silent resentment one spouse feels for having to do all the work alone.

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Paula Holt
It's Not Too Late!

Although it's already January, when it comes to making resolutions I consider the first few weeks of the year a grace period. With the busy holiday season there's no real time before January 1st to sit down and reflect about goals for the upcoming year. You might scoff at the idea of making resolutions, but it can be helpful to start the year with a set of intentions to guide you. This is true for couples as well as individuals.

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Throwback Thursday: I Survived The Holidays

I see the light at the end of the holiday tunnel. Before Christmas, the light felt like a train coming toward me. An electric train to be more specific. The train my father bought my son for Christmas and then asked me to set up so my son could come down to find it on Christmas morning. My father went on to tell me that if I set it up, my son would remember seeing the train for the rest of his life. The rest of his life. No pressure there, Dad. Without going into the details of my cursing and near-tear-filled Christmas Eve, let's just say I struggled with the train.

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Challenging Husbands to Do More in the Workplace

As each day brings the news of another case of sexual harassment or assault, I find the topic occupying more of my thoughts. Who will we find out about next? When will the accused or the accuser be someone I know personally? What changes will come as a result of these revelations? Is this really the sea change that people are speculating it is? 

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The Love of My Life

I recently saw this tweet from Idina Menzel and had the reaction I always have when I hear (or in this case, see) the phrase “the love of my life.” It’s the combination of a slight eye roll and a sick feeling in my stomach. The expression has long occupied a place on what some would say is my long list of pet peeves. But, before you write me off as a hater or someone who is hopelessly unromantic, hear me out.

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How to Be Married: Engaging Memoir Meets Marriage Advice Book

In her recent book, journalist and author Jo Piazza opens with the story of her real life "meet cute" on a boat in the Galápagos Islands. The cuteness was so intense, she almost lost me. But, with the words “Yeah. I know.” Piazza’s self-awareness won me back. Three months later, Jo and the great guy from the boat were engaged. (Ok, she almost lost me again.)

In How to Be Married, Jo Piazza shares the experience of her first year of marriage, a year some marriage experts call the “wet cement year.” As Piazza learned from therapist Dr. Peter Peterson, the first year is a time when “both members of a couple are figuring out how to exist as partners without getting stuck in the murk, without being trapped by bad habits.”

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The Bathroom

If you have the privilege of living alone before getting married, you know total bathroom freedom. You choose when to go, how long to stay, and what to do when you're in there. Nobody else ever needs to get anything out of a drawer. That all changes when you get married. I'm not saying it's always a bad thing because there is a certain intimacy shared between people who share a bathroom. It's just something to be prepared for if you're getting married, and something to manage if you already are.

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Children Are Not a Gift

Recently friends of mine had their third child. After two sons, this is their first girl. I was happy they were having a girl because I thought it might be nice for them to experience the other gender. I felt that way because they didn't have a third child to try for a girl. In fact, they weren't trying at all, they just weren't not trying hard enough. 

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