Valentine's Day: Ten Years later

In February of 2009 I started my first blog called Marital Musings. (At that time you could get a domain name that actually related to your content.) My first post was about Valentine’s Day, a coincidence of timing, but appropriate for a blog about marriage. Many of the blog posts I wrote then show their age now, such as the one about Tiger Woods cheating, the one about Arnold Schwarzenegger cheating, or the one about John Edwards cheating (there was a lot of cheating going on at that time).

The post below that I wrote about Valentine’s Day is as true to me today as it was 10 years ago.


Call me hopelessly unromantic, but I think Valentine's Day is overrated. Not that I want my husband to ignore it, but a simple card will do. The problem is you can't find a simple card. They are all very wind beneath my wings. Every year I look for a card that basically says "I love you" and "I'm glad we're together". To find that I have to sort through all the cards that say "When I met you everything changed. It was like I was finally alive. Now I know that all things are possible because with you and because of you I am a better person." It's just too much.

It's not that I'm opposed to romance, I just like romance that means you're thinking about ME, not just that you're thinking about this holiday. Recently, I commented to my husband that I had a hard time finding a decaf tea I like. About two weeks later he had to go to the store and when he came back he had a box of my tea. It made me feel good that he thought of me and what I wanted while he was at the store. It didn't even matter that I had already found the tea and we had 5 boxes in our pantry. That one box of $4 tea was more special to me than a dozen roses or a heart-shaped box of chocolates could ever be.